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From Fitting In to Flying Out to Extraordinarian

How to unleash and use your uniqueness


Many people are suffering because they feel not seen and not good enough. As a consequence, they lack self-confidence and experience mental health problems like stress, burnout, depression or worse.


Why is this the case?

It is crucial to understand that parents, teachers, and bosses use the same mechanism to make you do what they want you to do. That mechanism is telling you frequently that you are not good enough. Telling others that they are not good enough is the prerogative of those in power.

By the time you are 25 years old, you have completely bought into the story that you are not good enough. You believe that story. You even identify with being not good enough.

A management style and culture that focuses on telling people frequently what they did wrong, is slowly poisoning you.

It is a key cause of mental illness.


We might even get a compliment, but the impact is negligible in a sea of complaints. It is known that it takes about three or four positive comments, experiences, or expressions to fend off the languishing effects of one negative. I would argue that hardly anyone gets 3 or 4 times more compliments than criticism.

This explains why many people feel suppressed, stressed and without energy.


The story that you are not good enough, is not true. The strategy to tell you that you are not good enough is just that, a strategy. These strategies are used to control your behavior and your body. When you focus on meeting the expectations of others, you are actually living someone else’s life. Conformity is like gravity, it pulls you down.


The good news is that you are already good enough and that you can edit your story, and you can change your beliefs, and identity. You can remove the straitjacket (of conditioning) that is holding you back, and you can unleash and use your uniqueness.


By flying out, you can be the hero in your own story instead of being a pawn in someone else’s.

By becoming an Extraordinarian, you can build a better world for all.


You are invited to live your own life.


You will be surprised at how confident, capable, healthy, and fully alive you can be.


You deserve it.


Let’s get started.


Action: if you are interested in a free copy of the book, please send an email to arnold@brainathletes.club


I would love for you to share excerpts from your book From "Fitting In" to "Flying Out" on Thrive's media platform as it would resonate so well with our readers. ~ Arianna Huffington


NB. Please let me know if you are interested in any of my previous books:

  • De ProPere Organisatie

  • Why leaders need Generalists

  • How to get out of the treadmill